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It’s OK to feel “young at heart” as long as your emotional tool bag
doesn’t feel too empty or too disorganised at the same time
Many aspects of Repetitive Self Defeating Behaviours are similar to and and overlap with Addictive cycles.
With RSDP one or more emotionally younger systems seem to be stuck doing the repetition even though it isn’t working. The result each time is seriously negative or unsatisfactory.
Normally if this was happening your emotionally younger systems would work this out fairly quickly and another opposite inner self would take over. We learn by our mistakes and the more times we make the same mistake the sooner we learn to avoid making that mistake (or avoid letting that inner self drive the bus) again.
This doesn’t seem to be happening with RSDP. The ‘learn by your mistakes’ system has been shut down. The repeated behaviour pattern is more like an automatic response, a habit or an addiction. It is not the result of rational thinking or a conscious choice. The self-aware grown -up part has gone missing.
As a result, doing the same things, saying the same things, getting into the same situations, the same pattern is repeated over many years and usually gets worse. Examples:
Any behaviour that could be described as “repeatedly shooting yourself in the same foot” or self-sabotaging. Whatever you keep doing over and over again means more of the same familiar pain, grief, shame, guilt, fear, loss, sadness, failure or similar negative outcomes
The same pattern is often repeated in different situations or with different people.
Repeated patterns can be totally unique for each of us who suffer from RSDP so this is by no means a complete list.
For more information on Repetitive Self Defeating Behaviours and what to do about them, go to - http://www.voice-dialogue-inner-self-awareness.com/rsdp2.html
This issue is also covered in detail in my e-Book Growing Awareness series
|Explaining Your EA Wheel|
|Put Your EA Wheel to Work|
|What's It Like in your Blue WING Zone|
|What's it like in your Green STAR Zone|
|What's it like in your SAGE Zone|
|Free DIY Profile sheet|
|Balancing Core Beliefs|
|Self Defeating RSDP|
|Inner Patriarchs and Matriarchs|
|Balancing Inner Tools|
|The Magic Restaurant|
|DID and normal sub-personalities|
|Is it Safe for me to Change|
|The Path and the Holes|
|Emotional Age Issues|
|Young Systems at Work|
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