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Balancing Core Beliefs

A. A negative belief you hold (about yourself) that is essentially "Deep down inside I am not good enough because ....... " There are hundreds of different "because" endings.
There are several groups of because endings and issues, with dozens of beliefs in each group. None of them are accurate. Most are not true, but telling you this, at this stage won't help much (see below) .

General negative core beliefs or feelings about myself:

not good enough (incompetent)
not good enough (unlovable)
unwanted, different
defective, imperfect, bad
powerless, one-below
in danger, not safe
don’t know, wrong Life Issue related to core belief
Success
Love
Belonging
self worth
Control
Security
reality, reason

There are couple of hundred Examples of negative Core Beliefs, but to balance your own specific negative belief with a positive one you need first to discover what the specific "because" or issue is about. Yours will be different from people around you. There are no common or one-size-fits-all negative core beliefs.

Negative Core Beliefs develop as a small child tries to work out a "because" to help them cope with something they don't understand or are troubled by in their daily life. It might be neglect, injustice, dishonest parenting, parents with addictions, abuse or just feelings of vulnerability, fear or shame.

Whatever it is the child feels the need for:

1. A "because" that will help them make sense of and accept what is happening to them

2. A "because" that will help them "fit in" better in their family or at school

The trouble is that the only "because" that seems to work (at that time) is a belief "I am not good enough because ....... and so it must be my fault, not theirs."

This "because belief" appears to work if it helps the child "fit in" and "make sense" and if so it gets reinforced every day and more it seems to work the more it seems as though it must be "true".

In a functional family environment a child would not have needed to take on such negative beliefs. So in a way you could describe a negative because belief as "the negative belief you needed when you shouldn't have needed a negative belief".

Some fantastic information and practical exercises regarding Core Beliefs and Core Belief Balancing is contained within my recently updated Core Belief PDF Series. This series can be purchased and downloaded instantly through the online store.

For more information online, go to - http://www.core-beliefs-balance.com/index.htm

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